If we want men as a gender to question the beauty standard, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same?
Recently, I was out to dinner with a group of girlfriends, and one them, a super-smart feminist writer who has contributed to this very website, was filling us in on her dating life. Specifically, she was lamenting the fact that she had made a date with a guy from an online dating site before realizing that he was only 5’6. Now she felt obligated to attend despite the fact that she “didn’t even want to go anymore.”
The friend in question is roughly 5’2.
Now, I don’t mind a short guy one bit. A short man who has the confidence to go after me, a 5’10 woman, is sexy as hell. But I’ve noticed that the subject of male height has the capacity to turn even the most open-minded and feminist of my friends into straight-up bitches.
The general consensus around the table that night was no short guy is ever gonna get it, no way, no how, ugh, never never never never, with the kind of vehemence that would make me feel sick to my stomach if directed at a woman’s size or shape by a group of men. Even for the short women of the group, it wasn’t enough that a guy be taller than them — he had to be objectively TALL, even if that meant towering over them.
Of course, this was an uncensored conversation among friends, not intended for public consumption. But while the tone may be variable, the sentiment is real. A recent poll found that 70 percent of British women prefer men over six feet, and an quick xoJane staffer poll on the topic came up with about 80 percent agreement.
AtEyeLevel: I originally posted this in the r/short sub-forum of Reddit and boy did this article blow up with responses. Here was my initial post after posting link to the article:
I like this article not because I am short, but it’s the first “legit” article (meaning on a website with lots of traffic, as close to “print” as you can get, i.e. not a forum, not a subreddit) where I see someone (some people) challenging this in such an abrasive manner.
Didn’t finish reading it yet, but it is refreshing… Especially the opening quote.
"If we want men as a gender to question the beauty standard, shouldn’t we be willing to do the same?"
And this one..
"Ultimately, of course you can’t help who you’re attracted to. But a preference for tall men is borne of the same kind of social conditioning that has some men insisting they’re only attracted to thin women."
SOCIAL CONDITIONING! You see that? Not some “pop science”, evolutionary regurgitation!… People are GETTING it….
Not to start a bashing fest. I just wanted to post the article here since I JUST came across it.
This article is an absolute must read, so are the comments in the article and the discussion on Reddit. What’s most interesting is that the article is written by a woman and that even with this fact, many of the women there are calling the piece “misogynist”.
Thumbs up to the writer for challenging current “pop social” and “pop science” trends.